Friday, March 28, 2014

Sometimes The Only Consistency Is Change

It has become a belief of mine that some supernatural force is apparently out to prevent me from posting to my lovely and loyal readers. I truly find it humorous although discouraging at times to see how many obstacles have come into my path since writing this blog. They truly began to occur upon the success of this content and it appears that if I am to reach you, my dear readers, I will have to fight through the thorns and successfully conquer all obstacles.
Since my agreement to begin posting again:

I became severely ill for 3+ weeks.
I was bitten by a brown recluse spider with a wound that spread over an area about the size of an orange that luckily didn't end up being near as severe as some that you've seen but severe enough to be terrifying. It's been approximately 3 weeks and I had a new area start to blister and break apart just two days ago.
I was head butted in the chin by a cow and it caused quite the injury. The first day I was seeing blurry, falling over and suffering the worst headache I've ever known. I wasn't hurting on the chin but rather the back of my head. The next several days, I kept going in and out of weird balancing and vision spells followed by severe headaches.
I lost all internet contact due to several issues.. internet provider, connection cords and then the final blow.. my laptop monitor completely shattered.
And last night, I had to do a system restore on my desktop due to an internet explorer error.
I've moved to a new location with issues that it entails.. once again.

So yes, I am here.
A little bewildered by the opposition to my writing this blog.. but I am here.
I find it funny that when you choose not to pursue something, nothing seems to go wrong. Earth seems content to let you sit and become a mess of laziness but when you truly apply yourself, everything fights you.
The more that fights me, the more certain that I am that this blog is making an impact, thus I will put on my battle gear and push forward. I want the same for each of you. Never let an obstacle be the reason you give up on something. Only let your decision that you no longer want to pursue the act stop you If you let obstacles stop you, you will be defeated at every turn and you will eternally be miserable. Fight through the obstacles, re-strategize and return. Persistence will move mountains. I promise.
I hope you are all doing well. I miss you dearly.

I have had quite the challenges myself in housekeeping with the move. I am now in a location where there is much to mess up my little home. It takes continual cleaning and upkeep.

My secrets if you, like I, struggle at times with keeping on top of it all.

1. You're going to have to set aside an hour or two (at least) a day that is devoted completely to housekeeping. You may find that you need more. Adjust as necessary but make sure that certain hours are for that purpose and nothing else.

2. Pick up as you mess up. You save so much time in cleaning if you just pick up as you make messes. Do dishes as you are waiting for  that pot to boil. Wash each dish as you use it during prep and clear and clean the remaining dishes after dinner. Then you can truly relax for the evening without a mess to stress you. When you leave a room, grab a basket and make a loop of the house returning everything you just got out. Check in hourly to see how much you've pulled out and put it all back away. Hourly is lovely.
3. Groom daily. There is something about grooming. Not just getting cleaned but truly doing something to make yourself look your best that will put bounce in your step and energy in your soul. When you look good, it affects your confidence, your self image, how sure you will be of yourself etc. It will brighten your day, make you more confident with your husband, make you more confident with company etc.. and depression is FAR less likely if you groom your loveliest each day.  I have been enjoying playing with colors in my attire of late. Find a role model and imitate it. Find a feminine role model preferably. I truly feel that women are their best when they are feminine. You don't need an event to doll up, being female is quite enough. Do it. You will feel amazing. Conduct yourself in a more feminine manner. Never apologize for being feminine and notice how much more eager you are to do the things that come naturally as a lady. I truly believe it is hard to be proud of your home if you look in you reflection to see sweats and frumpy hair. Doll up. Enjoy being of the female gender and then make your home a reflection of that. Make it a refuge. Something lovely to relax in. Light your candles, Set the mood with lights and d├ęcor. Plant some flowers and then pick fresh bouquets and dress to match your surroundings. A true lady looks her best and keeps her home lovely. Make it a haven. Enjoy you calling. Enjoy being you.

I will write more as I have time. Much love always


Wednesday, March 5, 2014

How To Begin to Pick Yourself Back Up Again

I was recently introduced to the series the biggest loser. I had been researching diet plans that incorporate the food groups for my dear readers that struggle so much with weight and the winner of this years season caught my attention. I watched the season and I have to say it was amazing. With each and every person on the episode, there was an issue that had shut them down... an emotional breakdown of sorts. They had once been thriving individuals and then, something happened. Something broke their spirit. They shut down. They quit trying. They gave up.

 I do believe that all of us at one point or another will pursue something with everything inside of us. When we choose to do so, we will come under attack. We may fight for a time. We may give up immediately. It usually depends on what the attack is. Some attacks are just harder to make it through than others. Some involve loss. Some involve self esteem damage. Some involve fear. Whatever the attack, it not only shuts that area down, it may often shut down so many areas of your life. You will focus on those areas and work and work and not understand why you are stuck. You have quit believing that you can anymore. You no longer see yourself in a lovely way. You are completely defeated as you sit and do very little each day but as you focus on those tasks, you freeze. You can't move on. So you do what has become natural to you... you quit trying again...and again... and again.
It is absolutely amazing to watch that show and see each individual face their inner struggles with so much passion. It shows that overcoming the odds is NOT easy. It is literally, almost impossible but I watched.. and with each, a trigger would make them fight. Something would make it that important to them. Once that happened, they were on fire and nothing could stop them. The average overweight individuals became athletes, competitive fighters and it was amazing.

 Don't ever tell yourself you can't. Watch that show if you must and watch how they change. click on show and scroll to full episodes.  Although the winner, Rachel, was amazing throughout the season. Her spirit was so lovely. I do think she may have overdone it about 20 pounds but she was inspirational in the show to watch. She truly was. However, they ALL could do it. I saw some of them kick in at the last minute and absolutely amaze me.

  EVERY SINGLE one could win... if they desired. Their struggle wasn't physical. It was mental. I don't know what you have faced that  may have shut you down but if you are reading my page, there is a chance that something has. Keeping a home lovely, is like anything... difficult at first.. but over time, with practice.. it WILL become natural. None of these contestants adapted easily at first. Some of my first meals were exhausting.. but do you know that now I can whip up a meal effortlessly? The meals I make now are amazing. It took practice. Over and over and over, I practiced and I became amazing. Just like these contestants. They practiced daily and they truly became athletes... in 7 months.

There are skills that require technique and instruction but the biggest struggle to being organized is in your soul. You have to take that broken spirit and face the damage done. You have to face one by one all of the hurt and polish it.

Nurture your soul, remember your dreams, remember your proudest days, remember your strengths... you must tenderly stroke and comfort the pain. Then you need to stand up and start. Start to do the things you stopped doing. Get up and ger ready today.. even if you don't feel like it. Notice how many LONG hard weeks the contestants had to work before you could even see results. That may be the case with you as well. You may very well have to groom and diet for months before it looks lovely. Weight loss takes time. Technique takes time. That is exactly why I prefer to spend two years with you. In the course of that two years, I do believe that your spirit will begin to see that it can and it will. Once results start to show, you come alive, you realize you CAN do the impossible. You CAN improve your figure. You CAN become glamorous. But at first, you have to try and keep trying, knowing you won't get the results you crave the first attempt or perhaps the 50th.. but you will.. with time.. get there. But only if you 'start' now. So begin.

 Do it. Make yourself. Just like those on the biggest loser didn't want to, they did it anyways and the results came. EVERY SINGLE TIME I have wanted to skip grooming and done it anyways, I felt so glad I did. Hang inspirational photos of how you'd like to dress and look IN your grooming area so you have it as inspiration. Hang photos of the kind of food you'd like to make IN your kitchen to remind you. Hang photos of lovely homes in living areas to remind you and inspire you. Hang pictures of lovely yards in the garage or shed to inspire and work off of. The more inspiration you have around you, the more likely you are to succeed. Expose yourself TO the 50s. Watch a Doris Day movie once or twice a week or perhaps watch a few episodes of a 50's classic. Expose yourself to it. You become what you take in and surround yourself with. Surround yourself with your goals. Expose yourself to THEM.

When I made myself groom, It was usually the spark that lit the fire. You will find that once you start to do what you put off and continue to do what is painful to do, you will break past a barrier that unleashes the greatest of joys.

You will find freedom. You will achieve what your heart aches so desperatlely for. You CAN be lovely. You CAN be beautiful. You CAN be the greatest of housekeepers. You CAN cook amazing meals and together we CAN all learn to keep house, be elegant, be stylish and well mannered again. It only takes doing darling.

It just takes a step... and then another.. and then another. So start to walk. Get up and groom as lovely as you can. If you mess up, study and try again tomorrow. Get up and make breakfast, if you mess up, study and start again tomorrow. Over time, you will master it. Decide to be elegant, stand up straight and practice walking with a book on your head. Control your tone of voice, be aware of how 'pleasant' you are and begin to slowly refine it. With constant polishing, you will soon gleam but it won't happen in one attempt. It is a consistent process of falling down and getting back up and then progressing farther and farther but it won't happen until you get up and do what you don't want to do.

Then you get into the habit of doing what you don't want to do...and believe it or not, you are soon doing exactly what you want to do and becoming exactly what you want to be. Those little 'I don't want to do' tasks are keeping you from being exactly what you want to be. I can promise that once you do, you will look back and go, "it was that easy?" I could have done this all along! You truly can. But you will have to heal you spirit from whatever made you shut down. If you hadn't shut down spiritually, you would be actively enjoying the very things you can't seem to get to. Heal your soul. Put on the bandaids necessary and heal. Then get up, smile, notice the sunset and make your day lovely.

My course can help you. "I" can help you and I will. I will be starting the course up again on Monday. If you would like my personal help, please contact me. I am more than happy to help you achieve your goals. I truly do believe in you. Have a lovely evening.
Much love,