Monday, September 15, 2014

Think On Such Things

First, I want to apologize for once again leading my readers to believe the course was starting soon. We have been considering a different domain due to recent hacking attempts and it has honestly been a mess. Until I am certain, these issues are cleared, it may be a little longer. I am so proud to have readers that have continued to visit long since my last posts. It's been a year of very infrequent posting yet daily views remain constant. Thank you.
I will try to continue with little bits of help until I am back up and running full speed again.

There have been two things that have been brought to my attentions as of late. Ladies, the economy is falling. It is VITAL that you begin to learn to live on what you have.

If you are racking up credit card dept, you will not be in a good place in times to come. I do believe that we as a country can survive economic changes. I do believe we can do just as our grandmothers did. I have personally lived on very little for months at a time helping at farms here and there. I know how to live without power. I know how to cook from scratch and I am ready to do so if I must again.



I want you to have that same comfort. I do believe past generations were taught so much more efficiently how to manage funds and finances and if you look at the average 80 year old, she is prepared.


She saved for her retirement. She manages her money well and she has the necessities to live on. Something drastic has happened over the last few generations. I see people with excellent incomes running out every month. I talk to people daily that can't understand how they spent $1000 because all of their purchases were under $30 so surely they didn't spend that much. It only takes three of such purchases to be at around $100 and over 30 days, so many of my students end up broke.


 There is a cure. I am working to transition the course to cover EVERY topic weekly. I used to cover one section at a time. We would spend a few months on cooking, then budgeting etc.. but I am finding that in our society, if I don't refresh you "weekly" on each area, you fall right back into the state of our society and are living paycheck to paycheck and in an awful place for an emergency to sneak up on you. 



I want you to do the following:

1. Purchase a check ledger and your favorite most attractive case for it.

I want you to do this even if you never write checks. Keep it in your purse and make it something so pretty, you pull it out often.
Write your current balance on the top of the page. The minute you get a paycheck, immediately subtract EVERY debt you have in that pay period. Then with the remainder,
1. Set aside savings(include in this medical, emergencies, automotive etc) - any possible emergency that could possible come up.. set it aside now.. where you absolutely cannot get to it.


2) Take the remainder and consider, fuel, food costs etc. In fact, ideally plan your menu now. purchase any necessary foods and get that out of the way. Fill up your gas tank.. Now, with what is left over... you can separate into how much you should realistically set aside for clothing, toiletries, entertainment, gifts for friends and relatives(There is nothing worse than being forgotten on your birthday. Remember others and they will remember you), home decor etc. The best way to do this? What are your priorities? If home entertaining is big, budgeting to keep the home lovely is a must.

 Funds must be set aside for upkeep, replacing appliances and the like. Do so.


The last thing to consider is clothing and grooming and there are very inexpensive ways to do all of the above. Don't pay for the most costly things unless you can truly devote the funds to do so. Think it through be prepared. Lastly... with times as they are.. have money or funds in a place not dependent on banks. Have money set aside for emergencies. Store up some amount of dried foods, matches etc.


I have a box with all of the above.. candles, medicines, dehydrated foods etc. Be ready for emergencies. Never be in a situation where you can't afford that auto repair or to feed your family because when the paycheck came you spent as if you had no responsibilities.. EVERY paycheck should go towards every area of your life.. then, in an emergency, you are ready darling. I have a separate page in my letter for each area of my budget. I write the total of what I've set aside for each area and EVERY time I purchase, I subtract from the total. If I don't have my ledger with me, I don't spend. Period. Set up a budget and stick to it.


Where is your money being lost..? in what ways do you mindlessly spend? Mindless spending MUST begin now. You need to recognize WHAT funds you truly have and live within them.. (Including your savings).

I have looked through your spending. It is often funds that were unnecessary and none of you should be spending mindlessly on your credit cards. Credit cards are only for emergency and it should be your goal to pay them off promptly IF you must use them.

Be wise, Be frugal and Be ready.

Much love always,
Veronique

Thursday, August 7, 2014

A Word on Abuse

One of the topics which I discuss in my course is abuse. I do, to an extent, believe that our society has lost all sense of decorum and that we all not only abuse but are abused to a large degree. If you were to decide to ignore everyone who abuses you, you'd be quite the lonely dear. I believe that we must have a method for responding to the abuse that is going to be present in every relationship we encounter. Largely due to a lack of manners. 
 There are abusive people in the world. There is nothing you can do about that. They exist. I do not believe in ignoring people. In such a situation, we become the cruel party. I do not believe in closing off on people. I do, however, believe in not accepting abuse. When someone chooses to be cruel to you, you have a choice. You can allow it to affect your day. You can allow it to change your course. You can allow it to shut you down. But if you do.... they win.. and you will have given up on everything that matters to you, because they simply had a bad day. I share this because many of you are struggling with keeping house, because someone has hurt you. Many of you are too ashamed to groom because someone has ridiculed you. Someone has made you feel worthless.. incapable.. and you are afraid to try and have them mock you again. You doubt your abilities and you are afraid to try.  Sometimes it is easier to crawl into a shell and just escape. But by doing so, you remain captive. 

It hit me one day, when I was crying from a similar abuse. I was crying.. just crying dreadfully at how terribly I'd allowed someone to make me feel. They continued to torment me with their words and someone made a simple comment.... "why don't you just tune them out?" Every person that is in your life that mistreats you has a hook. There is something about them that you are accepting that you wouldn't accept in another. Once you find out why, you will feel free. If another person treated you that way, would you stay? I can't figure out why exactly some people can have so much power over us but my personal belief? Is that those we tolerate, are those who say the words we already believe of ourselves. If someone called you fat and you were rail thin and self consciously so... it would have no effect on you. But if you were feeling heavy already, it would terrorize you. When you notice a pattern of cruelty, walk away. Wipe your feet and walk away. You do not have to stay there and let someone treat you badly.  

You might start to try to convince that person that you weren't heavy in a desperate effort to not face the facts. But by keeping that person in your life, you only traumatize yourself unnecessarily. Abusers will catch onto this. They LOVE to find what you are self conscious of and continually bring it up. In doing so, they tear you down. They make you weak. It is your responsibility to protect yourself. Don't let another hurt you this way. If someone is saying things that make you feel badly or shut you down, walk away. Create distance until they stop. Don't continually expose yourself to someone who is hurting you. You are allowing another to beat on you and that is not required. These abusers are hurting. They want to see another hurt worse than they do. Misery loves company. If they feel bad, they certainly don't want you to feel good. They will try to pull you down too. They LOVE to discover what you are self conscious of... what will get a reaction from you and then they will continually press that button. and sadly, they will usually attack the things you are good at... the things that you are perhaps not quite confident in but that you excel at. They will go out of their way to keep you from feeling confident.
 That is where you have a choice. You can choose to care enough about your endeavors... to tune them out. You don't have to keep listening to their cruel words and you don't have to believe them. You don't have to wait for their call. You don't have to let them put you off again. You can decide you are worth more and choose to be busy. Don't focus on those who are hurting you. Don't even let them say the words that hurt you. And for heavens sakes, don't waste your life away sulking over someone who rejected you. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and decide that you are worth being loved and adored. You are far too valuable to sit around being ignored as if you are worth nothing. Don't. and NO you do not "NEED" anyone. Certainly not one who isn't there for you. 
I want you to do this:

The next time you feel badly because another hurt you. Write it down. 
What hurt you? How did it make you feel? Do you believe it was true or did they have reason to  try to tear you down? Were they even just being mean to you?
Are you going to let them do this to you again?   Next that that I want you to write in capital letters NO!
So what will you do the next time to keep them from doing this to you? Make a plan. 
I had someone close in my life who every time I went out with them.. hurt me with cruel words. I won't say how in order to keep from revealing their identity. I quit going out alone with them. Why on earth was I paying money to lunch with someone who was going to hurt me. I quit. It was rather silly to even think of going. No loyalty requires that.I quit spending quite as much time with them. It was the right thing. 

There was another who would write things that were so hard on me, I'd literally lose days worth of time just stressing over it. I changed my email. 

I have let my significant other handle conflict in ways that caused me much distress and heartache. I would abandon projects I was excited to take part in, lose motivation on things I adored. I would literally give up on things that were important to me. I let him continually tear me down and I'd just wallow in my misery. I wrote it down. I wrote down what happened when he did those things and I made a plan to keep it from happening again. Instead of exposing myself to words that tore me down, I exposed myself to things that lifted me up and encouraged me. Perhaps it's a ladies group or a motivational blog or something that inspires you. Don't let another's bad mood affect your day as well. I do believe a lady is always polite and always courteous. But I do believe a lady knows how to respect herself enough not to let another mistreat her. 
If someone is cruel, kindly reply and walk away. 
Never allow them to shut you down. 
Don't put yourself IN THE SITUATION where the abuse occurs again. If you avoid the situation, you avoid the abuse. It may take a bit of cleverness but you can find a way. Do so. 
Continue on. Make a plan and stick to it. You ARE going to continue on with your day and work on that lovely project you had planned on. You ARE going to groom and look lovely. You ARE going to make your home a haven. 
Never let another force you to make a decision that is not your own whether it be through guilt or pressure. They have their own life to manage. This is yours. Your decisions are your own. You may sacrifice for others because you chose to...but don't allow another to bully you. 
I found once that everything I did in a day consisted of what others told me to do. It is for that very reason that I wasn't reaching the goals I had for myself. You may be doing the same. 
Decide what YOU want to do for the day. Make the goals that YOU want to make. Put them as first priority. THEN if you have extra time, see if what others are suggesting fits your needs. If not, kindly say "no." 
You don't have to be bullied. You don't have to be pressured. You can be a lady and say no. 
You CAN plan your day in a way that is best for you. 
You can resist pressure and bullying. You are allowed to avoid those who hurt you. 
You just have to decide that it's what you are going to do. 

and on that note, I have exciting news. I have made a work schedule change. 
I have let my home sit idly each day while I worked every daylight hour. I couldn't bear it. Everything I lived for sat idle while I did a job I didn't adore. I will be home during the day next week and honestly, I cannot wait. I should be blogging far more frequently once again.
Much love always, 
Veronique 

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Course for Full Time Moms

Although I highly advise against it, if possible, I understand that so many women have no choice.. they are the sole provider and have to work to make ends meet. I have designed a program for you. I have found a way to make sure your home is lovely and that there is a hint of home baked goodness in the home. I will have a course specifically designed with you in mind. Enjoy 50% off of this course if you sign up this month. I do believe my last month has prepared me just for this. I have developed a way of keeping up the home in spite of circumstances. There will still be days where you are exhausted but your home will be clean. I will help you to make your home lovely, yourself lovely and your children happy. And perhaps help you to work into a position where you don't have to work so much. Sign up today.

Much love again,
Veronique

Housewife Courses Resuming


I have had so many lovely messages in my inbox over the last few months and I do have to say that I am so sorry. Truly. What has occurred has convinced me more than ever that everything I've written here is so true. After my love was injured. I remember just watching him. Watching him sleep and feel that fear... that what if? Oh my.. what if? 

I panicked I guess you could say. I started to frantically try to find ways to make money. I began to do what I've preached so often about.. I started to work. Full time. Like many of you. I can say this. Having a perfect home and working full time.. it's really not possible. 
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Something will give. I started to make money. I started to have money for things we didn't usually have.. there was a false sense of security, I suppose you could say. But I mean it when I say "false." I have been sacrificing SO much... to make so little. I have left my blog. I have started to heat up meals instead of prepare them. My kitchen often has dirty dishes and even worse, I am always exhausted. And our love has suffered. He was angry this week. He lost his temper. I could see the pain in his anger. The sadness. He has looked at me several times and start to tear up. He misses me at home. He misses me you guys. Why are we doing this?

Last week I worked several 12 hour days and I was too sick to enjoy the fourth. We had no lovely meals. There is such a great cost to the family when the woman decides to work and her heart is not at peace. I would honestly have to say, I would be happier with nothing. and the time to spend with my family again.
 I miss them. My love is less close. He is very clearly upset that I'm always working. Very upset that when he walks in, instead of a home with fresh baked goods and a happy love, he is finding messes everywhere, an ungroomed me and very rarely food and it is most certainly not because I am lazy. I wake early. I stay up late and I get maybe 4 hours sleep. There is so much to do. Too much to do. And even though I have to ask him to understand for my own health as I am often ill now, I don't believe it's right to ask the man to understand why there is never food and an unkempt home. I don't believe that is entirely right either. We have the ability to be HOME. Why would we complain of that? It is a lovely thing. Being grateful for a man willing to work so we don't have to is a lovely thing. But we've turned on our men. And given up our greatest gift. A home and the ability to be in it. 
I think that it is crazy for women to think they can truly work full time and be happy. I do... because I am not happy. I adored being home full time. Absolutely adored it. All I can think of is getting back to it. We have tied ourselves down to an expected income now. We have grown dependent upon it...but I have found that the more you make, the more you spend... and often it is in recurring debt that has you chained to a job that never makes enough. You have recurring bills and the stress of how to pay them. But honestly, it's so much less stressful to do without the recurring bills. It's really only greed. Most of those things you can do without. and once you decide you want things, you never have enough. Stop the greed before it begins. Choose home instead. Choose home. 
 When you took the job, it was to help your family and now you are hurting your family as you live paycheck to paycheck.. never making enough and letting your home fall apart around you. I have seen MANY stay at home moms that were poor but happy.. and I have yet to see a woman who works who doesn't feel detached from her home. 

I am about to take a risk ladies. I have looked at this home in disarray enough. I can't do it. It is costing too much in what matters.. my home, my love... our health. I am going to cut my hours. I am going to try to find a way to come back to blogging and cutting back my hours. Blogging was so lovely. I was able to make it work. I could work by being at home. It was my tending my home that fed the blog and that is what I need. As soon as I have 30 more in my course. I will start working part time and bring this blog to life again. As soon as I reach 60, I will quit my job. We can live so much more happily on little as a home than we can with my income and no home. 
 In the meantime, Thank you for your patience. Follow my lead. Find a way. I do not believe that at the end of your life, you will feel satisfied with the hours you spent on the phone or at work away from home. If you have  family, you'll never feel peace working so many hours. Once you have a family, home is everything. You miss SO much when you decide to work. So much. So many memories that you can't get back. My heart is aching for my home as it was. He is getting better. But our home is not. We were happy. When we had the least. And that memory keeps us going right now. I want to make it a reality again and I believe you should too. I was trying to make it work "for" my blog. I was going to design a course for full time working women... but that would honestly go against everything the 1950s housewife course is about. If you want to do it, you will have to be home for more than a few hours. Trying to work and keep house is what destroyed everything that. It's a choice. A choice to let some things go so you can focus on what counts. What counts is up to you. 
I wish I could share the beauty of what it was like when we had a 'home'. I wish I could give you one day in that life and show you how happy it was... but that's something you will have to decide to do on your own. If it's right for you, you will know it. I am determined to have one again. I will be back loves. If you are interested in a month of my course, let me know. I will try to get it up and running again this week. It's just been hard around full time hours. I only have a few hours each day at home around my job. To use those to blog, feels wrong. But I ache to blog. I ache to share what I've learned and if it's meant to be, I will have subscribers. I will have 60 more of them. In my course. And then, I will share it with you.Until then,
 Much love dolls.
Veronique

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Listening to Your Thoughts

I do believe that one of the greatest gifts we have is our mind. Often, I will notice that we are stuck. We have the time. We have the ability. We even have the things we need to get to. Yet, somehow we are stuck. We can't move. We sit and our mind is working feverishly through circumstances as we just sit. Now the average person may get down on themselves at such times. They may get upset and think why am I not doing what I need to be doing? But darling, you are. Your mind is working through something. The times when I have been in such a stand still, my mind was working. It was evaluating my life. It was trying to make sense of things. It was deciding what needed to be done... all while I sat. I noticed how the mind works in particular this last month. When my love was kicked in the head by that horse, it was very terrifying to watch. I would ask the doctor about his sitting staring into space or his sleeping for hours on end and he said,
'the mind is like any organ. When it is injured, let it rest.' If you are in a state where you are 'stuck' it may be time to think about the possibility that you have an injured mind. Are you facing overwhelm? Deep sadness? Deep confusion? Lack of decision? At such times, it your injured mind saying, 'stop.' It is telling you, it has as much as it can bear and it is asking you to stop. To stop thinking, to stop working to stop everything and let it rest. When he was dealing with his concussion, he wasn't to work to hard on mind games or watch tv... he needed to let his mind rest. I believe we all, at times, overwork our minds. We send them into overwhelm. We exhaust them and until we fix the thing that causing such stress... we will continue to be stuck on pause. There is often a cure. It is fixing the source. If something has you overwhelmed... eliminate the overwhelm. If something has you tremendously sad, you must find a way to get away from the pain. I had  a relationship that caused me great pain. I kept trying to fix it... and I was overwhelmed. I wasted many a day just sitting from the pain that that relationship had caused. I remember conversations that sent me into the most awful tears... such exhaustion and then I would just sit.. while my mind rested. When I let go, my mind healed. I don't believe in letting go of people but I do believe in letting go of bad situations. If a person and you are going to cause each other grief, it is best to find a new way of relating. If a job is causing stress, it is time to either adjust the job, adjust or life or find a new one. It may be lack of sleep, it may be an addiction but somehow, if you desire to overcome your lack of activity, you must give your mind an environment where it can flourish. You have to let it heal. Go sit in nature and stare at the sunset for a few hours. Allow yourself that time to just sit. Let it heal. Get away from the stress each day. Ideally, set aside time each day to do this. Time to sit and reflect and make note of what causes you grief. Then set a plan to each your struggles. Be kind to yourself. As you are kind to yourself, you will come out of your rut. I wish you joy. I wish you peace. I wish you serenity. Nature is always around you. Nature is meant to soothe you. Break away from your stress and find peace.

Much love,
Veronique

Friday, May 16, 2014

Priorities

 
One of the things that has truly hit home for me in the last few months.. is priorities. Life is a constant steam of distractions. Sometimes those we most need to tend to are the ones least appealing. Along with the most recent situation in my own life, I am reminded of a time when I got the most beautiful kitten. She was absolutely a doll. I adored her. I would decorate her in rhinestone shirts and pretty bows and she was tiny, frail, lovable and absolutely perfect.
One day we awoke to find she had been playing and fell into the septic tank. It was cold and she was covered in sewage. I saw her precious paws trying so hard to climb out as she kept sliding back down. She was getting week and my heart was broken. It was cold. So cold and everything we tried failed. But we kept going. We skipped every other event that day and we kept working until we got her out.. covered in sewage as she was and bathed her.
That my dears, is life. It was the same with the recent injury. I actually rather ill when it happened. We had been talking of getting me to a doctor for what we believed was pneumonia. And then it happened. It was a swirl of emotion. One minute he was sitting next to me reading. I was straightening his shirt and telling him how handsome he looked. The next there were people running to my door saying he was hurt. And as I ran out and saw him laying there on the ground, I won't lie. I wanted to die. He was very confused. He kept asking who I was...where he was.. what had happened. They didn't know if he'd survive and waiting to see if he would... I can not even begin to explain the shock of it. One moment he was there, the next, I didn't know.. It was that fast. I will spare photos but pretty much... it was my fiancĂ© under the horse that truly happened in my life. He was kicked in he head and fell backwards.. then the horse landed on top of him. and trampled. He broke 5 ribs, had a severe concussion, and a punctured spleen. It was terrifying.
 
 
 He kept re-asking what date it was. And of course, when we arrived at the hospital, they made me leave the room as he was crying in pain and sent me to my own little waiting room. It was absolutely horrible. I have never hated being alone more. Needless to say I was up all night and working the next day and up all night and working and at that point, I was coughing up blood and in fevers myself. But that is life loves. That is simply life.
I can create a course that makes life seem simple.. or easy. I could plan it as though nothing would ever happen to disrupt your schedule. But if I did, I wouldn't be honest. The truth is that when you decide to take on my course, it will be messy. Much like bathing off my darling that day. I have cleaned many homes.. Sometimes there are maggots. Sometimes there are spiders. Sometimes food that has become who knows what. Some bathrooms are dreadful. See that as a sign that you need to change.. NOT a reason to avoid it. Grab a garbage bag, grab some paper towels and bleach or cleaner and begin. Most is garbage. The rest are dishes that can be scrapped and set into soapy water. With gloves and bleach, it isn't that bad. Bleach will kill the germs. You can do it.
 
 I can guarantee that as awful as it is to clean that mess, IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Life begins when you wipe that mess that you want to avoid. Life begins when you look into that mirror at your face and instead of ignoring it, enhance it. Don't tell yourself that because your unlovely undone, you aren't pretty enough.. I'll tell you a secret.. we are ALL unlovely undone. EVERY ONE OF US. The only difference between you and them is that they decided it was worth it to groom. Just like they decided it was worth it to clean, or decorate. Life is full of treasures.. they all require maintenance. There is no home that is lovely without tending.. no woman that is beautiful without grooming and no meal that is delightful without toil.  And even though the effort seems to be immense.. the effort is nothing compared to the misery of neglect.
You can't avoid your problems. They are there and they aren't going away. The cure is to face them head on. It is to go to the biggest mess you have and face it. It may be calling that collector you fear. It may be facing the person who is hurting you. It may be cleaning a mess you are terrified of. It may be altering your schedule. But if you are reading this, there is something in your life that needs a tidying. Face it.
 
 Go right to the mess and face it. If it is weight, face it. Look in the mirror, be honest.. and face it. If it is your meals.. look at your fridge.. clean it and face it. If it is your dishes, put on gloves, get out bleach and face it. Same with bathrooms. If I can clean the worst of bathrooms, so can you. Ammonia is lovely... as is bleach. Face it. It will be hard at first but each day you will get stronger. Each time you clean a mess, you will have more courage to face the next. Face them. and like a lady, raise your head and stay strong. You don't' have to be a man. You can be delicate. In fact it is advisable to be delicate but you can be strong. If you have a harsh tone. If what you see when you walk isn't pretty.. face it. Just face it. You can overcome. You CAN. I promise you.. and I will help you.
If life knocks you down, stand back up.
 
My fiancĂ© has begun to mend and feel better but during that time he has been emotionally very distant. It has been hard. I have failed in so many ways. There have been moments that I just sat there for hours watching him sleep. crying. and I do believe that is okay. It is times of trial that remind you of why you are there. When skeletons of the past surface, they often help you to remember why you chose the path you're on. Often the struggles in your marriage are due to your management of the home. Yes, it offends but we know it's true. And honestly, can we blame them? Our men? for longing for meals and a cozy home? Yes, they love us. But can't they crave us too? Can't they long for a lovely home and a soft gentle woman. And don't you secretly long to be that in spite of your fight?
 French former actress, singer and fashion model, Brigitte Bardot was ...
I once heard it said that a woman should be free to take on any endeavor she delights in.. so long as it doesn't disrupt her home. I believe that our role as women, first and foremost is our home. It is our family. We mustn't take on any form of schedule that prevents us from being able to tend to anyone in our family as they need us. I have found that when I work 40 hours, everything falls apart. Everything. I find myself buying precooked meals, tired, emotional, ill groomed and my home falls apart around me. We have such a vital role. It is so important. I do believe that yes, every woman is capable of working in a man's world. I also believe that she'll never be happy there.... because her heart.. is at home. At home.. where being feminine is a good thing.. not something that business men use as a reason to look down on you. At home.. were you can be lovely and frolic without the competitive games of men. At home.. where there is peace and serenity. where you truly find your peace....home.
Female models wanted for online vintage 1950's fashion boutique ...
 
You will never truly be happy dears, if you give other things in your life so much priority that you find you have to neglect the ones you love. We have become too good and giving up our needs to tend to everyone else's. We have let ourselves go, our homes go, our meals go, our peace go and I don't believe that we've made any life better for doing so.  If you find that you can't be there for a child or a spouse.. If you find that you have to pay another to clean your home or cook your meals. If you are so tired at the end of the day that you are no longer even pleasant in company and if your legs are anything less than smooth.. you are taking on the wrong priorities.
Model in corduroy motoring suit by Bedford, by Norman Parkinson, 1955
It may take an adjustment in lifestyle. It may take a career change.. to something that allows you to devote to your home. But I do believe that you will never find happiness or a happy marriage until you are able to be home and love your spouse and family as you were created to. It is good to have time to groom each morning.. in fact your romance depends on it.
... fashion, vintage, glamour, hair, idola, hollywood, icon, Marilyn
 If you neglect your appearance, your romance will fall apart.. it will affect your home.. it will affect your emotions.. it will affect everything. If you allow other things to take priority in your life, you home will fall apart, you children will become unmanageable, your meals will be lacking in nutrients. Your family will become sicker. and your home will not be a haven. Was the woman of the 50's a superwoman.. no... she just had her priorities straight. She took the time to groom each day. She made her home a place that was welcoming. She loved her family and her husband dearly. So much she devoted her life to them.. and I do believe she was far happier.
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I do not believe that the workplace has liberated us. I believe it has exhausted us. It has made us too tired to groom, too tired to cook, too tired to love. We are grouchy, irritable, sick, sad, and miserable. We have jobs, yes, but most of us don't like them much and even those of us who have great corporate positions find that working with he insults or advances of men proves challenging and unsatisfying. We long to be home and with good reason.. it was meant to be our haven all along.
Jean Harlow (1911 - 1937) in "Dinner at Eight"
 If it is absolutely necessary, there ARE jobs that allow you to be home. If you feel called, find one. Our society has fallen apart. If marriage stayed in tact, there wouldn't be child support. There wouldn't be single mothers. There wouldn't be a shortage of jobs as there wouldn't be so many trying to fill jobs. Children would have mothers. School shootings would be far less likely. When mothers were home, we didn't lock doors. I have been asked so often if I am challenged by women. and honestly, I have NOT. I have seen so many women tired, sad and drained. We are the result of a prior generation. One that decided that our role in the workplace would benefit us.. but it hasn't. Our homes have fallen apart. Liberation in love has left us with no men who are faithful.. with no men who want to care for us. With no men who even watch their language around us. Life has changed. We feel used, tired and neglected. We long to reclaim our feminine role. We long to be feminine again. And I do believe that together, we can.  The day that we decide that we are worth more.. that we begin to respect ourselves again and not overwork ourselves.. the day we adore our femininity.. that is the day, dear loves that men will once again hold doors..
1950s Mens Fashion
that is the day, dear loves that men will give their live to love and hold you. That is the day.. when homes will once again.. be lovely.
Divorce was not a common thing. Why? Societal pressure for one thing ...
 
Much love,
Veronique
1950's Housewife