Thursday, October 3, 2013

A Sneak Peak at A Housewife Course Lesson

I have been traveling much this week and thus have had so little time to write new posts. I am going to give you all a treat.... a sneak peak at a lesson in our housewife course that I am sending to one of our students today.

To sign up for the course, just click to the right and begin today. All of the amazing elegant mannerisms that the women in the 50s had... that made them so feminine, enchanting and awe-inspiring are learned traits. Traits you can learn with practice... just as they had to do.

Begin your own course today. My students get lessons Monday-Friday and lessons that they can choose to complete for a life change they will never forget.

Begin today.

Much love,
Veronique ;)
You can be the best chef, housekeeper, designer and dresser but if your mannerisms are off, you will miss the one trait that made the housewives of the 50s truly stand out... their mannerisms. I have seen so many today wear the attire but few can pull of the charm. While seduction is a trait many women learn, few have learned elegance and grace. Such traits are far more attractive than any degree of seduction could ever hope to be.
 It is a matter of memory and practice. Soon you will be charming and elegant without much thought.
Public Transport
Busses, Trolleys, trains, boats and planes are common carriers. Most bad manners in such are result of the perception that a woman who pays her fare should have the same comforts she would in a Rolls driven by her own chauffeur. She wants the best life has to offer. The best seat, the best people around her, and privacy. She often is heard complaining about those around her -- her remarks bordering on prejudice. If a tired farmer sits in a seat she was looking at, she throws up her head with self righteousness. If anyone nudges her in the rocky ride, there is a cold stare and cruel comment. She may assume that the other passengers are deaf and carry on conversation about her personal life far too loudly. Her tone may imply that she finds herself special but bad manners are obvious to all. She obviously finds everyone beneath her and is disliked as a result. Man or woman, rich or poor, you have the same rights on a public transport as any other passenger. For crowds to be bearable at all, kindness and tolerance are required.
We all must travel. Our facial expressions and mannerisms will affect the ride for both us and those around us. Being rude, allowing others to upset you, and being resentful will land you a bad reputation and a harsh response. Be gracious, accepting of others and kind and it will be returned to you. A true lady leaves a pleasant memory not a harsh one.
We are briefly covering charm and will continue to do so... however, no one book can cover all aspects of human relations. We will cover those that are most common and it will take common sense to exercise the same courtesies in other areas. Some great books to have on hand are the Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette as well as Emily Posts Etiquette. They are literally your etiquette encyclopedia. When in doubt, look it up. Manners affect others drastically. If you stop to think of those you dislike and those you like... it is largely a result of etiquette and charm. Learning to master these skills will make you far more charming and far more liked.
How are you in telephone manners? Have you interrupted without warning? Are you curt? Most dislike talking for long on the phone however, we'd all be lost without this useful instrument. Always assume the other person may be busy and cut your conversation accordingly.
Are you pleasant on paper? When you write, write the sort of letter you would enjoy receiving. It may be hard after an unpleasant occasion to send a thank you letter but a kind woman always does. Gratefulness 'can' be learned and even the most unpleasant situation can be appreciated if you consider the stress of the hostess and the time and effort taken to put the event together. In such situations, reply briefly but promptly.
Do your friends avoid shopping with you? Think about two things...1) clarify what you want before heading out. 2) Think about the saleswoman. She stands on her feet all day for a salary that is very small. Her salary depends on 'completed' sales. She receives no credit if merchandise is returned. She must bear with all types of customers....all of whom are always right. If you can't decide on what you want before you shop, let her know you are just looking. If she has the time, she will be grateful and help you even more. Never belittle the merchandise. If it isn't what you want, don't buy but never take it out on the saleswoman. She didn't select it either.
All in all, human relations can be summed with this simple rule. Try to get inside the skin of others. Think about how 'they' feel, how they react, and treat them as you'd like to be treated in their shoes. It is common to be cold and insensitive to both those you see as beneath you and those you are intimated by. ALL of them have feelings. Start to treat them as such. It will reward you tenfold in the end.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is a sure rule for charm.
Profanity on a lady's lips used to be a sign that she was no lady and definitely not virtuous.
Often mannerisms of a culture match their attire. Think back to the 1990's when women wore dark clothing, were agressive, spiked, wild and anything but feminine. We were masculine and aggressive and our speech and manner reflected this as well as our attire. Thankfully attire is becoming more feminine and it is no longer attractive to be quite so harsh. Our goal is not to compete with men or be mannly, rather it is to find a way to work "with" them. Some women still hold a chip on their shoulders and it shows in how they walk... with the angry expression, masculine gait, and harsh expressions. The most successful of women learns to conduct her business while remaining female. She may be in architecture because she knows what 'women' like in their homes. She may publish books 'women' like to read. She may be great at advertising because she knows what it takes to make 'women' buy things. Hardness and imitation of men are not fashionable. The feminine sex is fascinating and we are a necessary component to society. There is no need nor appeal to rejecting it. Delight in your feminine gifts. Shine. They are truly dazzling. In many ways, women do create the comfort, peace and beauty in this planet we call home.
Common sense and consideration for others will answer most questions on charm.
It isn't wise to ask company over at an hour when neighbors may be sleeping.
It isn't wise to ask over a person if you have no room in your home to entertain them.
In most situations, with thought, you can answer your own questions. How will you come across? Will you offend? Are you considering their comfort or only your own. Will you make an impression that will soften or improve their day?
Another important note. Men still and always will prefer to do the seeking. Also avoid coyness. It is artificial and silly. Dignity and a small amount of reserve along with graciousness will make women more than attractive to men.
A note on those who live with men outside of marriage.
Such situations offer no security or permanence. They put a woman automatically on the defensive. She is always threatened with possible desertion, she is always desperately attempting to keep her man by striving to be pretty enough, young enough, fascinating enough. She doesn't have the support of public dissaproval if he were to leave her because there is 'no' marriage for the public to stand behind. If a husband flirts with another woman, a 'wife' can object. The world would be on her side. The un married woman is just an option - one easily replaced and society often encourages him to consider other fish in the sea if unsettled. The wife can discuss relationship struggles with others. The unmarried woman is still not supported by society. She is often frowned on by the public. They may condemn her for being in such a relationship.
Worst of all. A man will likely never marry and if he does, never respect a woman that doesn't wait until marriage to be with him.
There is an enchantment to the initial love a man feels for a woman... If he is truly in love, he will want your hand. You won't just be a one night stand or a 5 year live in. You will be his everything.
The one he gives his life to be with.
Too many woman move in with a man to find him lose interest soon after. He was never truly commited to begin...if he wasn't ready to marry you then, time won't make him more interested it will usually make him less.
A true lady insists on the serenity, sureness and security/protection that our great-grandmothers were smart enough to demand.
 
Charm is a learned behavior but it does require much practice. With time, elegance is a trait every lady could and should desire to learn.
 
Much love always,
Veronique

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