Monday, September 23, 2013

Clutter Control

We are on a trip today in our home on wheels....
we brought two cats along for the ride. I was
noticing this morning the anxiousness of one
in particular as he nervously glanced around
gripping my shoulders tightly as if he was on a
steep cliff about to fall off. Every truck
that drove by...even though there were less than
in his usual abode, made him jump and hide.
It made me smile when my love
said he couldn't sleep and I, had to admit
I hadn't either.
Although the surroundings were peaceful, my
mind started to miss my usual morning spot for
blogging, familiar faces, familiar sounds.
I have always been a dreadful mover.
I don't do well with change.
 The habits in this
course were incredibly difficult for me...not
because it's any harder now that I've taken them
on...but because I had sentiment attached to my
old routines. With each routine a memory.
Each item, a sentiment.
I have found that most who struggle
with organization and homemaking...those that have
been taught and know better, the struggle is
for the same reason.
They can't give items away because there's
sentiment attached to them. Memories or
perhaps dreams from the time of purchase
that didn't pan out. To give such items
away is to give up. Or so it seems.
To change routines is to give up those
old times doing the old routines. I was
in the habit of waking up and wasting hours
in the morning snuggling.
  I did have to give that up to an extent
to get things clean around the house. My stomach
still pings when I walk away from him to go
into my kitchen, which oddly I love... it was
just the being away from him that made me sad
and sentimental.
For you, maybe its a friend online...or multiple
friends online. Those you struggle to pull
yourself away from each day to tend to your home.
New routines don't have less sentiment.. but it
may be at different times.
Now that the kitchen is so lovely, he often comes
in while I am cleaning to read to me or just be
near....(or to see if there are fresh baked cookies
on the horizon)
and NOW... evenings... I have evenings with him.
Not just evenings but lovely meals, enchanting
decor, amazing desserts and an atmosphere
that makes it all worthwhile.
Yes, it was more immediate to have him there first
thing. But to say, okay hubby, I'm putting you
on hold to go do my chores... and we call
loving messages to each other across the room
to keep in touch. (I know. We are very attached)
I am able to keep everything lovely and focus on my
kitchen etc. Honestly, I LOVE housework when
I really cut off everything outside and focus on
my task, it's fun. I love making my kitchen cozy.
I love decorating and lighting candles.
It's all worthwhile. I may have my silly
attachment things and my man at times.
But they are are still there. My morning time was no
longer than my evening time is now.
I now keep my house so well that I often can sneak in a
morning time. As long as I fit in housework
somewhere. You can set it up as you like.
As for clutter,
For each item you give away, there are new items
that you will bond to.
I definitely am not a shop a holic. ;) It takes
me sometimes a month to even be willing to wear a new
outfit I buy.
I'm just a routine gal. I know a lot of you
struggle with this as well. Don't let it
break your heart to give away that bear you adore.
Focus on what you are keeping not losing.
Do a little at a time. Give the things to someone
who you know really needs it. I have found it
very therapudic to donate old bears for instance to a lonely
senior. Then, when I give it to her and see the expression
on her face when she gets it, I am not sad when
it's memory comes to mind. Each time I start
to miss it, I see that old lady's precious
face and it's so much easier to accept it's absence.
We live in a world where we often have access
to far more than we need. The stores are full of
things that are delightful to the eye.
We bring home bags of bargains that honestly,
before we left the house, we didn't think we even
Train your eyes not to be drawn in to such treasures.
Perhaps keep a list of what you truly need
when not influeced by ads on tv.. ads in a paper
shelves at a store or what neighbors have.
Think about what you truly need as you are
making your home....things that truly affect you.
The easiest way to not have to go through separation to not over clutter in the first place.
It is far easier to keep a house than clean a house.
The same can be said here.
It is far easier to refrain from impulse shopping
than to give away something you've attached to.
1) Keep your home clear by limiting what you bring in.
2) Keep a list of the items you truly need. Keep it with you
If you are making a purchase ask the following:
    a)is it truly on your list of needs?
    b) Will it over clutter your home?
    c) Will it make you have to give away something you love to make room (have you even enjoyed that item enough yet?
    d) Are you willing to make that decision?
    e) Is it really within the budget?
    f) Are you just being fooled by tricky advertising?
    g) Is the object really as wonderful as the ad warrants?
Be a good returner. Keep your receipt for a week.
If you are not in LOVE with the item 2 days after
you get it home, RETURN IT THEN! Before you get attached.
Limit your purchases and return those that
fooled you.
Always keep a running list of what
you truly need and your budget alots.
You'll find you have so much less to declutter when you do.
In the meantime, find creative ways to remove
clutter that aren't quite so hard on the heart.
Much love my dears,

Doing What is Best Whatever The Cost?

We recently worked for quite a time helping an
older gentleman sell off his cattle.

He is literally dying. He is in complete
denial. In the time we befriended him, we watched
his cattle get fed less and less. To the point
literally that we were truly concerned.
There was a day that the cattle looked so bad
we panicked. We called a friend to see what
we could do.

We had to watch a he was warned by the
humane society and, in denial, kept trying
to desperately prove he could feed his cattle.
We saw him struggle to drive to them
day after day with eyes blacked from chemo, stumbling
as he walked... cursing as he stumbled.
He kept continuing to talk about what he was
going to build next year or work on
the year after. As if somehow the idea
of death was completely not obvious to him.

I can understand in a way how denial may make
the idea of death less painful but at some
point we hoped he'd think of his wife and what
he was leaving behind. He didn't.
He borrowed $15,000 from her to feed cattle,
to buy continue his denial.
She is an 82 year old woman. That was her savings.
Savings she wanted to use to go overseas on
a trip.
Her love for her husband must have been more.
We took his verbal abuse and denial day after
day determined to help him see that it was best.
Finally one day... the week before the humane
society was to come in, he realized he needed
to sell his cattle.

We called a man who had made an offer, completed
the arduous task of capturing a very tempremental
stear, worked ALL day long, tired as could be
to get them transported and at the end of the day,
he was mad at us. We had handled the transaction wrong.
He was angry.
I guess we should have known he wouldn't be happy.
He had never wanted to sell the cattle.
I guess in our hearts we knew he'd be angry after.
We were so caught up in knowing it was best for him,
that we weren't prepared.
Disciplining children can be so similar.
Are you willing to do the best for those you love
even if they don't like you after?
I have been faced with that decision far too
many times but I can say with certainty that
yes. It is worth it.

I loved that man too much to see him get
into legal trouble or have to learn the hard
way that he was feeding his cattle poorly when
they fell to the ground and died.
He was in denial of his abilities but I believe
that is why we were there.
We could see the path he was headed down and
we were the ONLY ones in a position to help him.
He is angry at us for the time. But I hope
deep within he knows it was best. My heart believes
that he would have been far angrier had we let
him get into trouble.
What situations do you see your kids or those you love
in that are going to end up hurting them in the end.
What are you able to do to help them?
Are you willing to have them angry with you
to do so?

Sometimes doing what is best for those we love means
losing their affections for a time.
But in our heart, could we have lived with
ourselves if we hadn't?
I believe there is a reason God made us the center
of our thriving homes. Our hearts care. That
concern is the best thing in the world for those
we watch.
Be that loving mother/wife etc today.
Use your heart to do what you know is right.

Much love,

Friday, September 20, 2013

Two Are Better Than One

As we head into weekend, just a quick note that I heard on the air today. 'Two are better than one."

When life seems hard and your relationship feels like it is too much, think of how much you benefit from having someone there...

-in times of grief
-in times of illness
-in transitions
-when you feel alone
-during celebrations
-during financial crisis

With another you are warmer in the cold, with another you are stronger and more bold.
With another bites hurt less, with another there's less stress.

At times when life seems too much to bare
Never abandon the lover who cares.
Do something for the one you love today. Something that says you care. If you haven't been romantic for a while, it may catch him off guard... but honestly, wouldn't a romantic display from him perhaps shock you? but wouldn't you adore it all the same?
Dress like it's a date tonight.. but don't tell him why... let him wonder.
Light candles and sprinkle rose petals around the bathtub.. put on romantic music and bathe
Make a wholesome warm dinner on a lovely set table with dim lights and enchanting music dressed to the hilt - this made my man burst into tears once.
Leave a secret love note in his car or wallet
Whisper that you love him as you drift to sleep
Look at him flirtatiously when he least expects it then wink and look away playfully
Brag about him to someone while he's standing next to you.
Experiment with makeup colors and garments. Then wear them only for him.
Be mysterious but be in love.
Stand by him through thick and thin...even when your relatives are the ones who are picking on him. Let him know you are his and will stand by him through thick and thin... he just may return the favor.
I want you to have a love you can be proud of over the years. The best way to do this is to make it through those tough times. Having someone by your side through thick and thin is more romantic than anything in the world.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Much love and many romantic wishes

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

The Ultimate Housewife Fall Checklist (fashion and decor guide)

This is a perfect time of year to rearrange your closet, your decor, etc.
Pull out some stylish boots and stockings or purchase new ones.
Pull out your favorite sweaters, scarves, hats, and gloves.

Rearrange your home to be cozy and warm with fresh scents of autumn. Candles are lovely this time of year.
Pull out a few favorite pie recipes.
Bake some fresh squash
Can your favorite veggies and fruits for the winter.
Purchase some fall flowers.
Go visit a pumpkin patch
Take a train ride to view fall scenery.

Change your pc background images and wallpaper themes to fall accents
Take photos of fall color changes, if you are really creative, paint them or sit outside and paint on a relaxing afternoon.
Give yourself a mani-pedi with golden hues and sparkles.
Put away the bright colorful makeup colors and pull out the golden and enchanting shades.
Start to plan comfort food meals with warm cozy delights - casseroles, mashed potoatoes, home made rolls, squash, baked warm veggies, hot cocoa, hot coffees.

Decorate the fireplace and begin to use in the evenings.
Pull out romantic enchanting peaceful music to play by the fireplace
Put romantic lights around it and at nights, turn off everything but the fireplace and lights.

Enhance your fall decor

Cozily read in a chair with your hot drink and fuzzy blanket

Pick out some soft cozy fuzzy socks and slippers and a new pj outfit that you feel heavenly, soft and warm in.
Decorate your bathtub with flowers and candles for warm retreats from the cold. Put your favorite music, favorite books, favorite polishes and a fuzzy warm robe and slippers in the bathroom ready to go.
Bake warm cozy pastries for breakfast and fresh bread often.
Is today a good day for the season changeover? Perhaps this weekend. Schedule a day and make it fun.
Much love and Happy Fall!!
Veronique ;)