Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Every Moment Has A Purpose


I feel called to write again. I will get back to those who have written, and I sincerely apologise for my absence. Life has a way of calling some of us away for a season. It can take time for us to be moulded into the character we truly need to have, and I have been through much needed moulding. I have learned so much in my trials. I can't begin to explain how lovely trials truly are if you can look deeply into what they are bringing about as a result. There is always a change. It may be a change you didn't know you needed within yourself. It may be a change in your focus or your goals. It may be God calling you to see Him.

The way most of us see God is not how He truly is. I have met Him, and He is lovely. When I went through my most recent trials, I met a God that is not harsh, or vindictive, not fierce or frightening. I met someone so lovely, so frighteningly beautiful, yet so tender, so gentle, so kind. In the midst of the most painful trial, he was not looking down on me with sadistic eyes, rather, he was the pillow of comfort holding me through it. In fact, He was not merely watching. When I fell, it was He who lifted me up and carried me where I could not tread on my own. He bore my trial in my place. He held me when I gave up. He loved me when I couldn't love myself. He is the beauty of a wave on the shoreline. The peace of a tranquil sunset. He is the love that you feel when you look at a dear one. He is the music that makes your heart sing. He is the joy of the morning, the stillness in the snowfall. He is the warmth of a fire and the softness of a pillow. Of everything that is beautiful, that is loving, that is moving, it is all Him. He is behind every symphony, every love scene, every touching moment. He is that feeling that lifts your soul and makes your heart sing. He IS love. He is the adorable animal that you love. He created all.

And, when life is confusing, when life is painful, when we feel forgotten, know that we are not. He is there. He is there every moment. And if you truly look, you will see. It is he that sends the comfort, He that shows you the way, He that guides you, He that sends relief. He is the one that brings the sunshine after the storm. He is the call you've been waiting for, the check you never thought would arrive, the love you finally received from a loved one, that day that you finally found the peace you'd been craving.

He is the reason you didn't marry the wrong one. And, He is the one who leads you to the right one. In the end, we all say, 'Thank heavens!' He is why. Learn to grow in life. Learn to see what you are being moulded into. What are you learning? It can be painful. I am watching a loved one go through so much trial right now, it's heart-wrenching. I see him touched one moment and rebelling the next. I see the pain as he's struggling. But, it's moulding him. It's removing the destructive side of him and enhancing the love. Will he make it? I don't know. But, I know God is touching Him. I know God is speaking to Him. The response is up to Him.

Everything beautiful in life is God. Everything good, everything loving, everything pure. He made the flavors you savour. He made the music that warms your soul. He is the love you ache for. He is never evil, never destructive, never out to hurt you. He is in essence everything that is good. Please know that in life, things may not go as you expect. But, know that He is there. If you look, you will see Him. And in the end, death is not the pain we fear. It is merely a passage, a moving on. And in the end, we are with Him. We are being continually shaped into what is perfect, into what will create harmony and allow the beauty of eternity. I do not believe He would give me so many chances, and not do the same for all of you. If your heart has any desire to know Him, if you truly desire to love Him, He will find you. He will not give up on you. Do not fear judgement. It is like the loving scolding of a parent, and it is so lovely. It is when I was judged that I met His love.

Every moment in life is a chance to learn, a chance to remove what hurts and enhance what heals. Every moment we can learn to create beauty or pain. We can build or destroy.We can hurt or comfort. I have so much to grow from, so much to change in my own life. But, i do want to blog again for you. Be patient with me as I grow. I will be restoring the course. I will restore the lessons. I will be bringing you the blog you love, this time with His direction. Bear with me, and we shall learn together. I will put myself back out there, come what may. I will let you glimpse what I learn as I learn it. I will share my life with you. He has gone through my health issues with me. He has stepped in to provide His love. I do believe that this time, I will be well enough. Please know how much I love and believe in you. Please know how dear you are to me. Please know that you are beautiful, that you can do it, that you have done something beautiful and you will become beautiful. I see so much potential in you. If you could see the beauty you are, the loveliness you hold. You are darling. You are dear. You are lovely and you are loved.

Much love,

Veronique

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

So, Where On Earth Do I Start?

When life has you in a state of complete disarray, when nothing and I mean nothing is in order, when you're a mess, your homes a mess, your relationships are a mess, your figure is a mess, your children are a mess, and your finances are a mess ... And, we haven't even broached the topic of meals and the extensive work that they take to put on a table (after all what clean dish would you cook with?). Where do you start? If you were to just tackle one area, would not the others worsen? And, our hearts, as broken as they are with disappointment, where do you find the will to begin at all?

It's possible. And, I will help you. I know from so many rounds of re-tidying myself. And, I want you to know it's a journey. It's meant to be. You may master it in one home, and then be moved to another and fall apart again. You may master it and then become so ill, nothing works. You may master it and go through some form of trauma that shatters everything. The key is to learn to pick back up again. We've been there before, and we'll get there again. Learning to manage the trauma is the key lesson. Learning to develop strength in the storm. Learning to trust that One who loves you more than you ever know, IS holding you up right now. There is a reason for everything. Nothing is by chance, and sometimes His masterpiece is so confusing to us. But, you truly look, you will see it's beauty. Each pain, took you to a great beauty. In every loss, you discovered. You learned. You grew. You shaped your identity and became something beautiful. Sometimes it's not your events. It's you. He's changing you into what he wants you to be. He's making you stronger. He's teaching you to love the unlovable. He's teaching you to focus on others more than yourself. He's showing you that you can't do it on your own.  You need Him. He's revealing your weakness and where you need His help. He's reshaping what you've mapped out for yourself and saying, "No. That's no my will for you. I have something better."

The royal wedding has become something of interest this week. And, it truly is lovely. But just think. If you were chosen as a king's bride tomorrow let's say, what would have to change? The process would be trying, exhausting. You would be in the public's eye from that point forward, with everyone looking to find your fault. You couldn't lounge around anymore, or look bad in the public eye. You would have to have children, and the world would watch how you raised them. If he was reigning king, you'd have the stress of the world on your shoulders. And the decisions to be made, now your concern. That's an extreme example. But perhaps, God is preparing you for a child. And if you're far from being in the position of a mother, there may be so much to prepare you. The pain of pregnancy prepares you for sleepless nights, carrying around the extra weight, concern for your child and its health and well being, an acceptance with the fact that you will sometimes not be as beautiful, but that's no longer the chief concern, a willingness to take on the ugliness to love your baby. You learn to be selfless, to care for another, to put your vanity aside, to sacrifice your needs to bless another.

"If" we all did this, if we all cared about others as a mother loves her child, there would be no homeless. There would be no needy untended to. If we loved others as a mother loves her child, teh world would fun in beautiful harmony. There would be no vanity. There would be no pride. We wouldn't step on each other to get 'the biggest toy'. We wouldn't push people aside to get the first bite of ice cream. Like a mother, we would make sure all had some. We would tell each other to be kind. We would love those in need. We would care for others. Our focus would not be on ourselves, our vanity, our needs, but on the needs of everyone that we love, EVERYONE. Every soul on earth was once somebody's darling baby. Every soul on earth was once moulded together in love. The ugliness of life, if merely that of a child acting out and not behaving on a much grander scale of course. We can't be selfish. We can't be like a spoiled child. We must be kind to others. We must love.

So, where do you start? By realizing there is nothing wrong with you. You simply had the wrong focus. I am confident that you have been putting your all into what you thought was best. I know that. And, I love you. Just pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and believe me when I say, you can do this love. There is no rejection, no failure too great. I can promise you. You are never out of His reach. In fact it is in failure, where you find His love. Rest in it, embrace it. And we will slowly build up your strength to handle exactly what you are meant to handle.

Embrace what you learn in the process. Recognize that every mess you clean, you learn from. Every time you stumble, you grow. It is a course that never ends, a journey that will feed your soul, lessons ever unfolding and quenching your thirst. Let's go through it together, shall we?

I want you to write out each room in your home that you need to work on for today. Plan in 3 hours for meals. Now, I want you to set aside an hour in each room. Jot down today's hours and assign each hour either a room or a meal. Now in 'each' room, I want you to focus on little tasks. The tasks must be simple and not overwhelming. I want you to do one thing. Then, I want you to do another thing. For example, wash one dish. Then, go sweep one tile. Next, go wipe one tiny square of your counter down and polish it. Take one item to a room. Clean one small section of your fridge. The task must be less than a minute. When you have a gigantic mess, and you stop to focus on any area, you will be there all day. The mess is so big, that you will get lost in that one area. At the end of the day, you will be angry for everything else you did not get to.

Same for the yard, especially the yard. Yard work can be so tiring. Pull one weed. Sweep one area of patio. Keep it light and manageable. Don't overwhelm yourself or tire yourself. One weed at a time will clear the garden. There is no race. Only do it well.

With this plan, you will. Follow it daily until everything is in order. It is simple. And, it works. Next hour, move to another room. put one thing away. Vacuum a small area. Dust under one item. SMALL things. One, after another after another. On the meal hours, same thing. Put three ingredients in a bowl, put those ingredients away. Plan out another item you'd like to make. Do the next single step in that recipe. Wash a dish you dirtied. etc. You must take it slow. Any rush, will make things untidy. Any rush will overwhelm you. Any rush will yield bad results. A meal rushed through is never lovely. Grooming rushed through is never pretty. Take your time. It is more important for you to start early and take the time to do something well, than anything. Start making dinner several hours before it needs to be done. Give yourself more time than you need. It's much like leaving early for a trip you're unsure of traffic on. Focus on doing the job well, not quickly. Focus on not getting distracted by one thing that takes all day. If you catch yourself doing something for an extended amount of time, switch it up. Go back to one thing here. One thing there. Lovingly direct yourself. Accept and love your learning process. Like a child learning to walk. There is no shame in the struggle. Learning is always beautiful. Only rebellion is ugly. If you are trying and doing your best, you are beautiful. I'm proud of you.

I will make it my goal to write more frequently. You can do it. I know you can.

Much love~
Veronique

Sunday, February 18, 2018

The Nature of a Woman

What I am about to teach on will seem foreign to many people in today's culture. It goes against everything you've been taught, everything you've been forcing yourself to be, everything men want to perceive a woman to be. It is the cause of every problem that is occurring between men and women today. It is the reason men have become so cold and cruel, and the reason we no longer look or act like women in the past.

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It is the nature of women. Somehow in our recent changes, we've lost the knowledge of what a woman is. Chivalry has been misinterpreted as spoiling women, and men have started cruel movements to 'beat women down'. 

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Women may be horrified to hear what I say. Men will refuse to believe it, but it is the truth. And in the past, it was accepted and cherished. They very traits women are now mocked for, were once cherished.


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Like an adorable puppy who is delicate and trusting, women were created as a more delicate and trusting being. Men are naturally more aggressive, competitive, harsh. Women are more easily hurt, more tender, more loving and more compassionate.

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The act of love is an act that was created beautifully. The components of it reveal out natures. Women naturally have a desire to attract a man. It is how women fall in love. There is nothing negative or shameful about it at all. It is beautiful and wonderful and everything good. We desire to be exactly what a man longs for, a beautiful woman that he falls deeply in love with. Our desire to dress up beautifully and attract a man, is a beautiful natural instinct that was 'created' TO please a man. It is exactly what he was created to desire. It is the beginning of love.

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In recent years, women have been mocked for desiring to attract a man. Men have begun to exploit it and take advantage of it, then ridicule the women for their natural instincts. But, the fact still remains. Women are more trusting, more naive. We are the weaker sex. We naturally trust, we naturally long to please and the very act is beautiful. It's a desire to be a woman, and to be loved, and it is beautiful. It is what was designed to attract a man to love and care for you.


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Men have caught onto this fact in women. Men have recognized a woman's desire to be beautiful and they have begun to take advantage of it in a way that is criminal. Men know that women are more trusting. They have begun to trick women, and mislead women, and make fake promises to women to trick their trusting natures into being taken advantage of. Because women are more trusting, we are easy to deceive and it's something men should know better than to do.

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Men literally trade secrets on how to trick a woman into letting them take advantage of her. They laugh at a woman's trusting nature and take advantage of it. Men are no longer gentle or kind with women. They now aggressively take what they want and rudely shove in front of the very women they used to be so delicate with.

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Being a gentle  man was an act of recognizing that at woman was more delicate. Obviously when carrying a heavy load, a man is able to carry it more easily. He would kindly offer assistance as recognition that we are naturally weaker. It is a beautiful thing, not a shameful thing. It had nothing to do with us being lesser, we are more delicate and it is a lovely thing.

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Women are more delicate emotionally. We feel things more deeply, are more easily hurt. An insult will not hurt a man in the way it will devastate a woman. Crude talk may be amusing to a man but it can leave women in tears. We are more delicate, and it is beautiful.

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Men were taught to be kind around women, to be more gentle with us, not to talk crudely in our presence, to help us with heavy loads and to treat us more gently as women. When we dressed up, men saw it as a lovely part of being a woman. Our loving desire to please and reach out to others is beautiful. Desiring to be beautiful was not a sinful thing, it was the delightful aspect of being a woman. It was the beautiful desire to fall in love and delight in our very nature. We loved our nature. We were happy as women. We embraced what we are. There was no reason not to.


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 It was at that time, pure. Men had not tricked women into dressing in ways that were not pure to get attention. It was not expected of women at all. In fact, men knew they had to treat you politely if they wanted any chance to get close to you at all, and they were careful not to offend. They certainly did NOT expect any sexual favors. They treated you kindly, were gentle and courteous and respected you as a lady. You were delicate and he was courteous.

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I want you to embrace this part of yourself. I want you to realize that desiring to be beautiful is not, and has never been shameful. It is a beautiful trait that was meant to attract a man to love and treat you well. It is the essence of being a lady.

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Men have come to expect sexuality from a woman. This is not how it was or how it is meant to be. A man had to court and marry a woman to have sex. He had to treat her well, and get the approval of not just her, but her family as well. He had to be willing to care for, provide for and support and treat her well. He didn't go from one woman to the next, as that would be frowned on. He was to choose one lady and treat her 'like' a lady. Men are getting away with too much today. They no longer even have to treat a woman well at all. They are not expected to treat women like ladies. They have become rude, crude and insensitive. They demand of women and never think they have to work to earn her favor at all. Most men have resorted to insulting women to get them. Treating women well to earn her favor is no longer something men think they have to do. They expect sexuality from women, not just one woman, but many women. They demand it. They are crude to get it, and decency has been thrown out the window. Women are not longer treated like ladies, or even treating well. Respect for women has diminished, and we are no longer seen as lovely creatures, but rather, are mistreated and abused.

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We have got to return to this. Women are being abused. Men are getting too harsh, and women are getting hurt. If men are allowed to get for free, what you to be the most costly choice of their life, they will not longer value it. Men are getting what they desire daily often after acting in ways that are cruel and unforgivable. They no longer see the value or the worth or know how to treat a woman with care. Stop tolerating it.

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We are ladies. You are more gentle, and more delicate, and there is nothing wrong with that. The fact that men put us into this mess after we began to work is shameful. They should have continued to treat us like ladies in the workplace, but they did not. They started to be harsher with us and put us under more stress forcing us to toughen up like a 'man' to have a job. Women began to reject being delicate and go out of their way to prove their equality by pretending to be as tough as a man. But, we're not. And were were not created to be strong like men at all. In fact it has made men wrongfully assume superiority to us. Yes we are weaker, but we are not of less value. It is the very fact that we are delicate that makes us so valuable in the first place. It is our very delicate nature that is fascinating and lovely, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. It has enchanted men since the beginning of time.

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If you look at the past, that is the difference. Women were treated like ladies. We were allowed to be gentle. We were allowed to be more delicate. We are allowed to be more tenderly hurt by things. We were not mocked or insulted or taken advantage of for such things. We were protected by men and treated like ladies. Be the woman that you are. Quit even attempting to be like a man. You're not a man, and to any man that would even look at you as if there was anything to be ashamed of in being a delicate woman, shame on him. He should know better.

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Men should be taught how to treat a lady. Men should be taught that were are more delicate and to treat us more tenderly. You are allowed to be fragile and delicate and lovely. And no man has a 'right' to your body. In fact, you are worth so much. A man should be willing to fight for you and earn the right to marry you, not expect to touch you and many others with a mere date. Begin to delight in everything that it is to be a woman, and begin to raise your price tag. No man has the right to your body unless he has shown a desire to treat you as a lady. If a man is harsh with you, unkind to you, mocks you or is not gentle with you, do not be with him. Men will learn to be gentlemen again when they quit getting away with being anything less.

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You hold the goods, you must learn to set the price tag. Require a man who is gentle and kind. Refuse to interact with a man who is cruel to or mocks you for being delicate. If a man insults your image, instead of treating you like a lady, do not regard him or give him your time. Protect yourself, and expect to be treated kindly.


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 The right man will love and treat you delicately. He will be tender with your feelings and be kind to you. He will take care of you. He will treat you they way you'd treat a delicate puppy. Gently and carefully and kindly. There is nothing ugly about being more fragile or delicate or loving. You are like fine china. It is what makes us lovely. It is just as ugly for a man to be rough with a woman, as it is for anyone to be rough with a precious kitten. It should be natural to be delicate with that which is weaker, and men should have an instinct to be delicate with us. Embrace what you are. Cherish it. You do not have to pretend to be something you are not. What you are is lovely. 

Saturday, December 2, 2017

Finding the Loveliness that is Uniquely You

I have gone through so much in my own personal life as of late, that this blog has taken a back seat and I do apologize sincerely. I have been struggling with some recent health issues that have been frightening and trying, and I have found many new struggles in my own home upkeep in the process. When you don't feel well enough to even stand or sit for long, it can be had to get much done.  I do believe my struggles have helped me to really refine my process in a way that will help many of you. I have made it more "possible" no matter your struggle. I have done it around 12-hour work days and in the midst of feeling horrible. I do hope you will enjoy the results. Every curse can be a blessing, if you truly seek to learn from it. I do believe that sincerely.

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I also believe that every illness has a cause. There are things in life that will heal your  body and heal your soul and provide a "life" energy:  loving friends who are kind to you, animals who adore you, things that bring you joy, a genuine feeling of love, people who appreciate you, feeling valued, feeling needed. 

I'm not sure if you've seen this but these images of water that had been frozen.




Note the crystals. When there was loving energy in the room, the water froze into the most beautiful shapes. When there was negativity, it frozen in frightening ways. That energy, that negativity literally was in a sense "killing" the water.  What you are exposed to will either give you life or give you death. What you engage in will either heal you or kill you. You can chose to eat what will hurt you, or eat what will bless you. You can make choices that will destroy you or choices that will bless you. You can choose to surround yourself with people who bless you and people who hurt you. In my own illnesses, there was a cause, one I continue to work through. I remember a quote by Marilyn Monroe one time that stood out so much to me. "When you are famous, people will just walk up to you and say anything to you, as if because you're famous, an insult won't hurt you." 



Words of death are words of death. They will hurt ANYONE. I have at times allowed people in my life to say things that destroyed me at a core level. I believe we all do. That thought would reverberate through my thoughts and hurt me terribly. I spend so much time hearing those negative words in my head and I was not exposing myself to positive thoughts of myself in their place. I do believe that you kill yourself off when you quit believing you're worth living simply by thinking negative thoughts, your body reacts a a cellular level.  It is SO important to think positively of yourself and others, to expose yourself to what brings you joy and uplifts you, to think on things that are positive and give you 'life' energy. The next time you read a terrible tabloid, imagine if those words were posted about you. The next time gossip tears someone down terribly, imagine that such words were said about you. Our words hurt others. If you are not blessing another, you may be hurting them. You are giving them life or death in your interaction. Some people absorb so much negative energy, they cave into it. It is not hard, when you look at it in that context to see why so many celebrities are the most depressed and suicidal people that you will see. I do believe they receive more insults than anyone was created to be able to bear. With me, I'm always so worried about hurting others, to a fault. I was letting it kill me. If people were threatened by me, or I appeared too done up, I would doll down as much as I could to make them comfortable. I wanted so badly for them to see I 'wasn't' vain or conceited that I destroyed myself to make sure I was humble.  It got to the point where I could never dress down enough. Someone was always bothered by something on me. I was always seen as the "priss".  I avoided people. I crawled inside of myself. I  was too afraid of having the next flaw pointed out to the world or another person trying to find as bad of a picture a possible to take of me and show everyone to prove I wasn't as good as 'I thought I was'.  Oddly, I had less self-esteem than anyone.  I went through such an awful 9th grade year. There was a group of girls that just decided I thought I was too perfect. I was just standing in PE one day and a soccer ball hit me so hard. I literally wanted to cry it hurt so badly. The girl kicking it at me said, "Little miss perfect".   Another girl was supposedly wanting to kill me because I had a locker near her boyfriend. I didn't even know this girl. Girls would sit behind me in class and talk about putting gum in my hair so I'd "have to cut it". I would walk down the hall and hear "Prisss" Thank heavens my parents talked to the school about it and it seemed to stop.  Just a few girls but it was so horrible.  And the odd thing was, I wasn't a priss at all  No where near it. Yes I wanted to be pretty. So do all girls. Yes I would try my hardest to do my hair as pretty as I could each day. That's just the joy of being a girl and in the past, this was not something a girl would have been chastised for. 



I remember doing a report on Marilyn and falling in love with who she really was. I dreamed of growing up and being glamorous one day. I think we all do. It's part of being a woman and something we should love to do. Being a woman is lovely. Perhaps it's our society and the lack of fidelity. If a woman looks pretty today or tries to look pretty, perhaps we fear that our man will stray. I don't believe disliking the women who tries to be lovely is the answer. A return to morals certainly is. As long as sex is an easily acquired thing for a man to gain with no commitments, he will cheat even on the most desirable woman with someone undesirable. I don't know a single beautiful Hollywood celebrity that hasn't been cheated on by her man.  It is a cultural problem. Men no longer have to court and marry the woman, so they don't.  Men no longer have to value the 'lady' so they don't.  It was once thought offensive for a man to look at a woman for more than a polite head nod.  Women required respect. Women knew their value. We are the most beautiful creation. There is nothing more lovely. And, in spite of how it may seem, we are all men can think about most of the time. Men have a craving for us that surpasses our ability to comprehend. They put on an act today to avoid commitment or responsibility but the desire is great. They crave us. Unfortunately they crave something they can get in one night. They have learned that they do not have to commit to get this. They have learned they can get it from MANY women. That is like offering you a gourmet dessert table when in the past you would have joyfully selected one item. There IS NO WAY to expect a man to fall in love with and remain in love with you forever if he can get what he craves without doing so. WE crave the marriage and courtship. Men crave what can be achieved in one evening. It is ESSENTIAL to know this. If he gets this without marriage, he will not desire to marry. If he can get it from women anywhere, it is unlikely he will choose to marry anyone, or IF he does it will only be for domestic reasons and he will continue to try to be with as many women as he can 'get' at no cost. The romance of the past was because the culture of the past required a man to marry a woman. A man who slept around outside of marriage was looked down on/ostracized. Women had to be respected adored, courted and he could pursue her hand. He had NO rights to her body outside of marriage and he had to prove honorable to achieve her hand in marriage. Men will appreciate this type of woman more. In fact, this is the type of woman they will fall helplessly in love with. You always value something more when you had to work to earn it. If you are given something for free, you will resent being asked later to pay for it especially if you can get the same item for free elsewhere all around. Unless women as a WHOLE decide to stop letting men take advantage, things will not change.  It becomes a game to a man. Instead of finding a woman to fall in love with, he's out to see how many he can trick into being with him that way.
It is up to us to require more. It is up to us to be proud of our feminine beauty and to realize the treasure that we possess.  Don't throw fine china to a wild crowd. Set a high price and require a responsible buyer.
Don't punish the girls who believe they are worth more. Believe you are worth more as well. Being a woman is lovely. And, at the time when men "were" valuing and loving women, they were lovely. There is nothing wrong with being lovely. Immorality is dreadful and hurts so many, but even the ugly are immoral. Don't blame that on the women who are lovely. 


Hate the sin. Not the woman. What is the true hurt? I believe EVERY woman can and should delight in her own unique beauty. It is the joy of being a woman. There is nothing sinful about being beautiful. There is only sin in misusing such beauty. If delighting in dressing up makes you sin, work on that sin. Enjoy being a woman, but never allow it to make you proud, or sinful. Never use it to lure a man who belongs to another. Never use it to make another feel lesser. In fact, the greatest beauty is in seeing the beauty in others. Decorating and adorning yourself can be delightful. It is like shining a pretty car or decorating a Christmas tree It is enjoying what you have and taking care of it. It should never become an idol nor consume too much of your attention, yet delighting in dressing up is lovely. Pick clothes that you love. Enjoy wearing them. Enjoy being a woman. 


Women in the past were lovely because they were feminine. They had a purity and loveliness about them. They embodied what was delicate, gentle, lovely, pure, and graceful. When you seek to be lovely, focus on being "lovely", not sexual.  Loveliness is breathtaking. Sexuality in any public setting can be offensive. In what ways can you look elegant, delicate, graceful? There is a feminine beauty that you can posses. It is found in being beautiful and lovely and pure. Sin is never lovely. 


In fact, there is a beauty that can 'only' be found in being pure. 

It is very hard to find a lovely image of a woman with any ounce of sultriness or pride. 

Beauty is found in goodness. In refinement.  In purity. 
The surest way to be lovely, is to be good. The surest way to be healthy is to think lovely things. Surround yourself with beauty in your spirit and your life. 
How is is your life? What energy to you send to the world? Is it a selfish energy? Start to consider what you are exposing yourself and others to. The energy you sent to others will hurt you just as badly as energy others send towards you.  Every time you shout at someone, you are hurting your own body and cells. There is destruction occurring on a cellular level.  Every time you think a negative thought, or think a proud thought, you are harming yourself physically, and making yourself less beautiful and lovely as well.

But if you are thinking what is beautiful and lovely, if you are loving others, if you are surrounding yourself with what is beautiful, you will be beautiful as well. Your body will be healthy, your heart will be healthy, your cells will be healthy. You will be healthy.

With my personal situation, I started to withdraw. The criticism from others made me feel ashamed. That attempt to hide myself was killing me. That act of denying myself or critiquing myself even within was making me less healthy as well. Love the body you were given, but never be vain as we all were given lovely bodies that if cared for will always shine. You are no greater than another and were never meant to be. At the same time, no one is better than you. You are beautifully you. Believe this. Love this. Be a joy to others and let them be a joy to you. When you finally realize that there is no one truly superior, you can relax into loving who you and others truly are.

Monday, October 2, 2017

Changing Your Perceptions

I have been so blessed in my life to have lived in many shoes. I have been cherished.  I have been abused. I have known notoriety I have known poverty. I have had many friends and I have been lonely. I've been praised for my successes and looked down on for my failures. It may be surprising to hear that my most treasured memories often were from times when I was looked down on the most. I believe the time I was of the highest quality, the most ambitious, the hardest working, the greatest character was a time no one saw it. I believe we look at others and rate them inaccurately. We put so much emphasis on appearance and in doing so, we miss so much of the beauty of life. Perhaps a person may be pleasant to look at, but that is rarely an indication of a good person. Often it indicates vanity and self-obsession. A person with money is often greedy, abusive or selfish and heartless to others. Often however, the kindest most beautiful soul is the one you may look down on. Likewise, people can do the opposite. They can assume that everyone who looks good is conceited, or every rich person is evil. I have been treated horribly for looking good. I have seen successful, kind, bright people horribly gossiped about for being successful. It is just as equal and cruel of a judgement. Learn to look beyond. Don't rate someone on what you see outright. Often the most evil will make sure to look like the kindest. The manipulator will be the first to compliment you, befriend you or help you. Look at deeds. Does this person gossip? Do they care about others? Do they love? Do they feel or act superior? The person on the street is not lazy. I only pray you never have to learn to survive in such a life. It can be compared to being stranded in the wilderness. Life becomes about finding warmth, bundling in blankets, trying to find a safe place to stay, praying you don't freeze overnight, trying to find a place you are allowed to "be" although insulted and complained about when you are. These people are not lazy. I believe the poor are merely the ones that society hasn't accepted. They are often the ill, unhealthy, unintelligent, confused but kindest people you will ever meet. The most giving, the least judgmental. They accept everyone and look down on no one. They are often simply unable to care for themselves. Something in their life made them unable to. It may be a temporary illness, or it may be a child in an adult body that just needs help. Be kind to the poor. Don't call them names. Don't rush to save a dog while stepping over the poor soul in the street. Poverty is not a crime. A dog is far more able to survive the elements than a human. A clean body is merely one that had soap and a rather silly thing to feel superior for. We are all the same. We are all human. Don't judge. Don't look down on those richer, don't look down on those poorer. Don't look down on those prettier. Don't look down on those uglier. Lose the attitude of being better. You're not. Lose the jealousy that makes you tear down one you fear is better. Quit looking at appearance and learn to love.  It is a waste of a life to pursue superiority when all along you could have known love. It's just such an odd thing we do. Looks are only looks. It is the soul that we must see. Train your eyes to not look badly at others. Work to not feel "better than" anyone especially for anything visual. Learn to love and care about others. Learn to stop saying things about others that are unkind especially in your thoughts. See the best in others. Learn to care. Learn to love.

Much love,
Veronique

Sunday, October 1, 2017

Do Less to Achieve More

Where do I begin?  I have so much to cover and I'm honestly not quite sure where to start. With many trials of my own over the last few years, I can definitely give you some tips to get started today as well as a promise that the course will resume in the near future Lord willing. One of the themes that is consistent and has proven time and again in my life is that life is truly better with less. 
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The times when all chaos has broken loose in my life has always been when I took on too much:  too many hours, too many possessions, too many commitments, to many bills, to many things to put away, to many tasks on my to do list. Not enough time to sit and even groom.  Too much. 
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I became so overwhelmed recently with personal issues that I would just drive in my car to sit and do nothing. While this was therapeutic and got me away from the chaos for the moment, I would of course return to more chaos when I returned home due to neglect. I have come up with a system that is putting things in order for me even around very long shifts. 
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I literally came to a point where I put the timer away and just did ONE thing at a time. Literally. That may seem silly but if you're in a place of complete overwhelm, it will bring order and for some, this is the way I believe you should start. Anything else will seem like too much and you will quit. Thus I recommend one thing at a time at first as I was driven to a point where this is what I've had to do myself and I have received the greatest results in doing so. 
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Sometimes you are in so much overwhelm that taking on the fridge or taking on a room, or taking on a grooming regimen in the morning is too much. You're not ready. You seriously need some sit and rest time. You have too much on your plate, too much to do, to many things to put away, too many things to keep up with an right now you just want to sit. It's too much. I understand. You may not feel well. This method will work wonders for you. Start small. Avoid more than 5 minutes in one task for now but do allow 5 minutes of rest between rounds. Let's build your energy and let you vent emotionally. 
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     First, find your place of rest for today. What do you most need? A cozy chair with a blanket? Time outside in nature? A room by yourself with no one interrupting?  A good book? Something motivational? What calms you? Set up your quite place for today first. Most disarray is a result of overwhelm. Calming this in your spirit will bring order naturally. If it's endless fights with another you need 5 minutes in your own room of calm where you don't read or reply to them during that time. Put the phone down or use it for something non social. A good movie. Something calming. Stop interacting during that time. 
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     Now think of the three areas you are most stressed about. Is dinner at night a disaster? Are your bills a wreck? Your yard? Your appearance? Pick three. 
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   Now do 1 thing at a time in each. Continue until you're feeling a sense of overwhelm and take 5 in your resting spot. It may seem silly, but for me I put one thing away in my bathroom. Then I put one thing away in my bedroom. I then pulled one weed. I cleaned one tile on my kitchen floor. I cleaned on rack in my refrigerator. I folded on item of clothing. I brushed my teeth or just put lipstick on, or just changed my top. I did the first item on my recipe for dinner. I washed one dish. Etc. Then I rested for 5 minutes and wrote out any feelings of overwhelm and began again.
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I looked up one bills balance and it's due date and wrote it down, picked up another item in my bathroom, another in my bedroom, another kitchen tile, another weed, another bill due date. Once I had my bills all written down, I began my plan. What is my balance was one step. What am I going to pay first and when. When will I give myself grocery/gas money and how much? How much will I save? But only one of those tasks at a time. I cleaned and and put on shoes, I washed a dish. I folded another item of clothing. I did another step on the recipe for dinner. I cleaned another kitchen floor tile. Another rest. One item on the grocery list. Etcetera, Etcetera, Etcetera.
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 You can add 5 jumping jacks, 1 walk around your yard, 5 sit ups, writing down the calories in one thing you ate etc. Whatever you need to work on but only one thing at a time. This may seem silly but it works. Keep calm. Never allow your body to feel overwhelm. Keep it calm, Keep it relaxed. Keep your spirit at peace. 
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No one task is too much and since you will be doing another round usually within 10 minutes, it's not really that silly at all. Soon your house will look spotless. It may be a week. It may be a month but it will be spotless. This will also get you in the habit of keeping it tidy. You don't have to write a long to do list. You don't have to follow a perfect plan. Just look around and start. Do one thing here, one thing there as you see or think about it. If something pops in your head, that's a great next one thing to do. And plan in rest or it will burst to a point of overwhelm and take over an entire day or week by making you ill. You must rest. You must not overwhelm your body or your mind. Keep a sense of peace and calm. One thing our society just doesn't do any more is relax. We have this silly illusion that more is better and all it does is cause chaos. Truly the greatest moments in life are those that are the least stressful and the most serene. Find a way to make your tasks peaceful. Learn to slow down and relax. One thing at a time will clean your home. You  may right a brief list of the areas you'd like to work on but don't overwhelm yourself with it. The key is not to overwhelm yourself or look at anything to overwhelming. Keep it simple. Make it small easy tasks. On task at a time will make dinner. One dish at a time will finish your dishes. Always soak them 20 minutes first. 
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If something is important start it so far in advance you can do this method and not have to over stress. You can do this even very ill. Pulling one weed is therapeutic. It gives you a sense of purpose. You will feel a sense of I can do this. You will slowly pull yourself up again. It can be likened to a leaf pile taking one or two leaves off at a time. It will eventually be in order. Do what you can I suggest just ONE thing at a time. 

Much love
Veronique

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Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Getting Started With A Routine to Reach Your Goals

It was a stressful day. I had spent two days doing so well, I was getting on top of my home, I was looking better, I felt like my routine was coming together, everything was going so well. I would see it now. I was just days away from a perfect home, a routine I could manage. My job was paying well Everything was there. Then it happened. I was happily following my routine and it happened. First, my love was in a bad mood. I was taken from my routine for hours trying to resolve and ended up giving up in tears. I ran out crying (not in my routine ) and ended up grabbing something to eat somewhere as I had nowhere else to go (not in  my budget/food wasting in fridge). Then, I went to sign in and work and there was chaos and uncertainty there. At the end of the day, I had done nothing but react and recover. My little checklists made that morning were sitting there, and it brought me to tears just looking at them. They were such lovely checklists. It would have been such a great day. I looked at the groceries in the fridge, I'd excitedly purchased to make and walked into a home where my love was in the other room ignoring me, trying not to be so hurt that I ran out again. I walked into the bathroom and realized that I hadn't even begun to groom for the day. I had a hair pointing at me a if to taunt me. I was a mess, and my happy little spirit that had wanted such a wonderful day was in tears inside. 

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At such times, looking at the list can be painful. It is at such times, that we just give up the day. None of our goals seem possible. Our progress from the days before, slowly begins to unravel once again. 

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I have made many to do lists. I have created many routines, but there is a problem with each. If you fall off schedule, you feel as though you failed and you quit. I don't like to do lists because you could end up spending all day on number two and never get to anything else. I don't like long stretches of work with a planned break when you finish, because you will have situations like above and end up breaking your schedule all together. The best way to plan for your day is to be ready for anything but have your goals in mind and ready. You have to be determined to spend time in each, come what may. 

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I think it's best to set a time every two hours where you are going to spend 5-10 minutes planning that time. Based on where you are at, at that moment, what can you get done?

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I like to make a master list of all things I would have in order, IF I was reaching the goals I longed for. Thinking of the kind of home you desire, the kind of image you desire, the kind of food you desire to make, the kind of relationship and social life you long for etc. Keep those in mind and make a list of what you desire to get done this week, month, year. What do you want in a home this year? Are you wanting a new home? Do you want to repair the one you have? Then, you will need to set up a program to save in the meantime. How often will you give to this savings? When will you have enough saved to accomplish that goal? Appearance, do you desire to be thinner? More toned? Take better care of your hair, skin, teeth, nails? Set time to work on those this week, month or day. What will you do? How often? Think of what you're heart is feeling unhappy with the lack of, and work to resolve it. Right now, what is aching within you? What do you long for? What about your life is making you miserable? How will you change that? Plan how you would like to work on it each day, week, month, or year. With thing AS THEY ARE NOW, how will you fit that in your life? Don't want for it to be different to begin. Begin now. Obstacles will always be there. If you let obstacles keep you from beginning, you will let obstacles stop you later as well. Those who succeed are those who refuse to be stopped. 

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Now for the day, I want you to set a sheet you will fill out each day or even better, every couple hours. I have devised the Ten and Two. I have tried all varieties of schedules and so many have been interrupted, but one that seems to work for me is the Ten and Two. I will work ten minutes on the most important to do I have on my master list. Then I will take two minutes to rest, facebook, think, cry, stretch, get sun, etc. Then I will look at my list and begin ten minutes in what I think is next most important. Each ten minutes - re-look at your goals, re-look at  your lists and note what you are neglecting. At the beginning of the each day, circle the things you neglected the day before. Do those things today. No ifs ands or buts about it. 

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Re-write your goal list each week at the beginning off the week. Evaluate what you're not doing each morning. Each hour, focus on what's most important. I found when I'm around others, that I tend to do what they need. At the end of the day, when I'm all alone the things I've neglected are me. My diet, my self care, I'll have a hair on my chin. My eyebrows will be run wild. My needs will have been neglected. Make the 2 minute break at the top of each hour, one you do all alone, away from those who need you. Determine to do one thing YOU need that hour. 

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It is hard being a woman. Everyone needs you. Everyone pressures you to care for them. But we can't completely neglect ourselves. Create a system that works for you but have goals and have a plan. The days I do not follow a plan, I completely forget my goals altogether. I find I am even better with family with a plan. Otherwise, I'm always lost in thought, frustrated, and feeling overwhelmed. It's better to plan before doing. Then you can focus and not be wondering if you've forgotten something or be pulled this way or that. Make a plan. Make decisions. Then set your week, day and month to accomplish them. I believe in you. 

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Much love,

Veronique.